"Holy sh*t, you're a dude"

So, what's new? Any men in your life?

I have always been puzzled by this, why is it that the first question people make when they haven't seen you in a while is are you in a relationship? There are far more interesting and important things in life than having a relationship, yet humans seem obsessed to define a life as successful only if and when you're in a relationship and lack of one immediately means you lead a sad and disappointing life.

Now, I'm not saying I'm against relationships, I think it's wonderful how people relate and fall in love, I'm a big fan of it, I love seeing people who truly love each other, the way they interact, their little secrets, hidden and unknown to the rest, their codes, it's absolutely beautiful and as a matter of fact I admire it, it's an amazing ability that not everyone is equipped to handle. Yet I take an issue with having to explain myself every time I say I'm very happy being single and unattached, I'm attacked and called a liar because I must obviously want a relationship, I must obviously need a man to be happy and to rescue me from whatever the hell I need to be rescued from. I'm actually happy with it.

It has come to my attention that even in TV and movies those characters get attacked, take Summer from 500 days of Summer, she gets judge and hated not because of her actual mistake (knowing she didn't want a relationship while reeling him into one) but the problem most people had with her seems to be that she likes being on her own, that she wants to be independent and single and that she's happy with it.

People, happiness does not depend on having a relationship or not. Let's be happy because we deserve it, because we're amazing, because we're successful, let's be happy for the little things.

You've got opinions, man
We're all entitled to 'em
But I never asked

Sara Bareilles

King of Anything

Beauty Industry

As girls we get bombarded with feminine stereotypes 24/7, how we’re supposed to dress, eat, look like, if we don’t follow the rule we’re judged, by the media, strangers, friends and worst by ourselves.

Every single day we see the ads, we hear the commentary, we’re told that our bodies should be size 3,2,1,0 and no higher and if it does we must diet immediately, exercise 2 hours a day, take “miracle” pills, fasten for a week, anything but be “fat” we are given this message that clothes must fit us and not the other way around, I see women who buy clothes smaller than their sizes because it’ll motivate them, motivate them to be thinner, because thin is beautiful, to me healthy is beautiful, I say that we should change it from be thin to be healthy.

But it’s not only our sizes that we’re criticized on, there’s also our wardrobe, get out of the norm and you don’t know how to be a girl, you’re the odd girl out and let the criticism rain in, because for some, for most actually, fashion is a one way street and the minute you get out of it, you’re a “walking mess” but being out of the norm applies not only to fashion but by how we speak, how we express ourselves, we’re strongly encouraged to follow in and keep the strange thoughts to ourselves and when we don’t the looks given say it all, of course it rarely stays in looks, the disapproval rises up until it overflows and then it’s not just looks, but judging is verbalized, whether it’s by friendly jokes, helpful tips or the direct critic, for some reason it is always hard for humans to accept that not everyone thinks, dresses or behaves the way we do.

And even at our most confident moments it can get to us, perhaps just for a split second but it does.

So, here I am taking a humble stand and saying let’s check our stereotypes, let’s check what we say, because we just never know.

"The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart"
Helen Keller